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The Bird’s Nest By Robin Carter


When you hear the “mythical term” Ride or Die what is the first thing that comes to your mind? Do you think of Bonnie and Clyde, Treacherous and Teflon, your family, your job, what? The concept itself actually surrounds a mere portion of insanity when you observe someone whom this term literally fits. It is defined as when you love something or someone so much that you’re willing to do anything for them, even if it kills you, because they mean that much to you. Originally, a “ride-or-die” friend or person is someone who will hold your gun, and hide the evidence. They will allow you to make mistakes repeatedly, but will still stand by you. This is someone who will take the blame for something they know was no fault of theirs, but yours instead. This person will provide for you, help you and cover for you without the need for a “thank you” because they love you unconditionally. I am sure there must be someone of this ideal, and to the “outsiders,” it is a mentality that is seldom understood.

When song artist, Tupac Shakur sang about this mythical women back in his day of influence, perhaps some women dreamed of being that jewel in her man’s eyes. Some women probably still do and will show it by doing things like; taking drug charges, neglecting their children for him, supporting him financially, they will accept the fact that they are not the only woman in his life and will be content with this. “Ride-or-die” is the ultimate construct of unconditional love. It is what marriages on paper are meant to be as statistics show—as not the same. In certain cultures and religions where divorce is unheard of or lethal for the woman, being “ride-or-die” is forced. However there are ways that a woman of a law-abiding citizen can be construed as “ride-or-die.” In reality, many of them are, but the term is never used for them. These women will allow their men/husbands to pursue their dreams without the risk of leaving and will stand behind him 100% while doing so. They will sometimes allow his mistresses to come and go without the risk of leaving and will protect him in any way possible. So whether it is a “thug” thing or a professional thing it still has the same mentality when it comes to “ride-or-die,” it is the definition of unconditional love. This is the same love that many of us have for our parents, siblings and children. We don’t disown them but forgive them, love them and defend them. They may be a “mess up,” at times, but they are our “mess ups,” and we would rather put ourselves in harm’s way than see anything happen to them. That is a “ride-or-die” mentality.

Now let’s look at it from a spiritual aspect. “Romans 5:8-9, Kings James Version,” says, but God commendeth His love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. So as ugly and unclean as we were/are and He knew we would be, Christ suffered the abuse, name callings, beatings and crucifixion for us. Since we have now been justified by His blood, how much more shall we be saved from God’s wrath through Him?” Jesus displayed his unconditional love for us and continues to do this. It is stated that each time we sin, we crucify Him all over again.

Remember this, not only did Christ ride; He died.