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CHRONICLES OF THE BYNUM BOND Understanding the Husband’s Role Equals a Strong Marriage

One of the key components of a strong marriage is the husband. Oftentimes, wives don’t understand the role of a husband. A couple of years ago, my wife and I were studying the roles of a husband and a wife. Two scriptures that are important to me when considering a strong husband are Ephesians 5:25 (NIV): “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her;” and Ephesians 5:28 (NIV): “In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” The first scripture helped me understand how God sees our wives, and that there is no way to misunderstand what He expects. The second scripture showed me how I care and love my wife tells me so much about myself. I shared those two scriptures because they are very important to me.

I’ve tried to be the husband without having God as the head of my life and trust me, there’s no winning doing it that way. You may cause some pain, misunderstanding, and more because you’re trying to do it your way and not God’s way. Sometimes we want to say we’ve been blessed with our spouse, but then our actions show God differently. When it came to my marriage, I wanted to please God and do what He said to do as a husband and I wanted to be a good example for my two sons and for others. It’s so easy to get caught up in the world society’s mindset about how marriage should be rather than what God says about it. Just think: how much better families and the community would be if men stood up being the man who God has called them to be?

Some men have an issue of reaching out to other men when they are facing a trial or just to reach out in general. Don’t allow pride to hinder your progress: when you want better for yourself and your family, you will reach out. I want to encourage men to find another man of God to keep you accountable or join a men’s group at your church that you can be a part of for support. Don’t think you have to do it all on your own.