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Catch the Wave By Robin Carter

Catch the Wave

By Robin Carter

Robin Carter - Bird's NestSometimes we choose to actively focus on positive thoughts while acknowledging the fact that we have negative ones as well. We often entertain our thoughts, but then find a way to eliminate the negative ones when they occur. Negative thinking characterizes that of a pessimist. For a pessimist there is always something to worry about; nothing is ever quite right; bad occasions seem to last forever and they outweigh the positive ones. Their life means just living in fear, sadness or anger the majority of the time. There is a strategy to help us deal with some of these things, it is called “defensive pessimist.” This may seem like negative thinking, but it is believed to work for some. This mechanism is utilized in various ways. For instance being a public speaker is a good example of the processes involved in the strategy.” A “defensive pessimist” can alleviate their anxiety about speaking by imagining possible obstacles such as forgetting parts of the speech, becoming thirsty, or perhaps getting a stain on their clothing right before the event takes place. But because they have already thought about these things ahead of time, they are able to prepare for the challenges. As a speaker you may do things like prepare notes about the speech, bring a bottle of water to alleviate thirst or perhaps a bleach pen to remove shirt stains. These preventative measures can reduce anxiety and promote good performance as well. So whatever works in overcoming the negative actions we must be willing to endeavor. An optimist however, is someone who generally keeps a positive attitude, has a good mood, and tends to look for the best in difficult times and circumstances.

Psychology 114 teaches how to deal with negative thoughts or problems that try to entertain us. Usually when this happens, we may try to dismiss the thoughts, but sometimes they just won’t go away. When these thoughts occur, oppose to dismissing them right away which seems to be the better option, simply allow them to enter, then carefully inspect and decide how you are going to handle this thought or problem, then dismiss it. This strategy is called, “Be Here Now.” Strangely enough, but needless to say it works for me. Some thoughts and worries will continue to return until you think them through.

Occasionally I attend a class at my church called “attitude class.” This class is taught by my pastor and in this class each person around the table gets a chance to express their inner feelings toward things that make them feel uncomfortable or puzzled. After discovering these problems, we then explore and discuss how to find positive ways and energy to cope with them in order to shape the outcome. We all need a wave of positive energy flowing through our system at some point in our lives for life is full of changes. One of the most common displays of negative energy though is to fear a future event—meaning worrying about something that perhaps will never happen. We sometimes get a little cough and immediately we want to classify it as a “cold,” one that we may never get. I personally do believe that we can speak certain thing into existence, so I try to remain calm in calling things anything, except what it is proven to be. Each day speaks for itself. Don’t worry about tomorrow for it is not promised to us. So come on! Jump on board! Grasp a heart-full of positive energy which can be obtained from “on high.” Be of good cheer, life is good. Be thankful to remain in “the land of the living.” Get dressed in your water garment, grab your ski gears, jump in and “Catch the Wave!”