Goodbye May and Hello June! Welcome sandals, sand, picnics and summer vacations. Also, the time and tradition of the June Bride has arrived. During the years of 2000-2006, my team and I were blessed to celebrate the lives and accomplishments of others. From the greatest to the least; no one was forgotten or left out.
There were times on the outside everything appeared to be “mettre au point” or impeccable. The simultaneous shouts of celebrations, awards and congratulations filled the ballrooms. The joy on the honorees faces was priceless. On occasion, my heart was broken while I celebrated those men and women. In those moments, I had to resist the thought of not showing up. I had to prioritize my purpose. The affair was not about me but it was an opportunity to participate in the joy of others.
Never forget this point – It’s good to have a rock. Nehemiah 8:10 states, “Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.” What God was teaching me was if I remained faithful and if I could celebrate my brothers and sisters; I would be remembered by Him.
Now what I am about to say will bless you. I love to officiate at weddings. I remember leading these dear hearts into their vows. Inwardly, I would ask God if I would ever know this type of amazing love. Little did I know my answer was on the way. Yes, those marriages survived even when mine did not. This was my test but I never lost hope.
A school of thought is this – Continue to dress up and show up at the celebratory events of others. Eventually, God will bless you with your soul mate.
Be genuinely happy for others. Keep cheering for them!
A Queen knows a queen; so sistahs, this is for you. Stop looking for love. You are out of alignment with divine order. Proverbs 18:22 – “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing.” In God’s perfect timing, true love will show up at your door. For my note takers, if he really wants you, he will come and get you!
Never allow the spirit of jealousy or competition to enter your heart. There is enough sunshine for everybody. Be thankful for your singleness. It is your waiting room for marriage.
Remain optimistic and hopeful. You are never too old to find true love. Realize if you have not met him/her is only because God is preparing your lifetime partner. The beauty of seasoned love is that you know exactly what you want and don’t want. Life is no longer about the first date. It is about the last date.
A symptom of the “You’re probably going to die alone syndrome” is that you are not happy. You are not whole and you are not healed from past hurt. Learn to forgive yourself and your past. God already has. You don’t have to be a scientist to find a cure. Look within your own soul.
Don’t box yourself out of the possibility of a meaningful relationship with unrealistic expectations and goals. One example comes to mind, you are expecting your potential partner to be rich and wealthy when you are NOT.
Remember your words are full of truth or death. With the right attitude, faith in God and the necessary drive anything is possible.
Lastly, remember the more you are positive and thankful; the more you attract the things to be thankful for.